Tuesday, August 18, 2009

How Can I Build My Self Esteem?

Your own personal level of self esteem affects nearly every part of your life. Low self esteem can keep you from finding success and happiness in your relationships, friendships, career and life.

High self esteem, on the other hand, allows you to reach for your goals, build strong, healthy relationships with others and find the happiness and satisfaction that you want in life. If you've been wondering "how can I build my self esteem?", here are a few pointers to get you started.

Affirmations

Affirmations are positive statements that you repeat to yourself. For example, instead of telling yourself "you are such a failure!", you might use the positive affirmation "I am human and I am allowed to make mistakes". At first affirmations might seem a little silly to you.

It can feel weird to tell yourself positive things when you are so used to saying negative things about yourself. However, over time if you repeat the affirmations enough they will eventually work their way into your mind and start to replace some of the negative beliefs that you have about yourself.

Some affirmations you might try are:

  • I am a good person
  • I deserve to be happy
  • I have the power to change my life
  • I am a capable person
  • I like and respect myself

You can come up with your own affirmations. Just be sure to phrase them in a positive way. For instance, instead of saying "I am not stupid", say "I am smart".

The key to successfully using affirmations to build your self esteem is to repeat them often. Try contradicting negative thoughts about yourself with positive ones and before long the positive thoughts will become a habit.

Do Something You Are Good At

Anytime you accomplish something it boosts your self esteem, no matter how simple the task may seem to you. Find something you are good at and do it regularly. Every time you find success with it you will get a lift in your self esteem.

Set Goals that are Just Beyond Reach

Try to set goals that are just a little higher than you normally reach. When you accomplish something that you view as being difficult it can give you a dramatic boost in self esteem.

A word of caution, though. Try not to set your goals too far beyond your reach that you can never accomplish them or it could backfire and harm your self esteem. Instead, raise them just a small amount above what you think you are capable of and then push yourself to reach them.

Developing healthy self esteem is one of the best things you can do for yourself. As you improve your view of yourself and start to change your beliefs you will see dramatic positive changes in all aspects of your life.

To get lots more info on how to build self esteem and find the happiness that you deserve, please visit http://www.improvedselfesteem.com

Good Luck!

Aldous Huxly

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